Free from Guilt - Living Guilt-Free

I grin like an excited cheshire cate as I dip my chocolate coated fingers once more into the deep glass bowl filled with the decadent frosting - the glossy mixture that I have just prepared to top my double chocolate brownies.

After gently tipping the bowl and watching the sweet elixir of life layer itself like a seductive goddess into the wide open mouth of my baking dish, I delicately swirl my fingertips around the edges of the bowl, carefully salvaging any last droplets of divine goodness before gently placing it upon my salivating tongue

Not so long ago, eating anything chocolatey, let alone eating anything outside a scheduled meal or snack time would have been forbidden and avoided at all costs. Gone was my love of baking and being able to guiltlessly enjoy any remains from the mixing bowls. My whole life revolved around calculating calories, avoiding anything so called unhealthy and feeling guilty for anything and everything - especially where food was concerned.

I’m not the only one who has been plagued by the disease of guilt. Whether you have lived with an eating disorder or not, feeling guilty unnecessarily envelopes so many of our lives - trapping us from experiencing the true joys and pleasures of the world without punishing consequences.

To give just a few examples, you may resonate with not feeling deserving enough of pleasure. Perhaps that even equates to feeling guilty for taking a day off work, eating a slice of cake, opening a packet of biscuits or buying your favourite chocolate. It could also mean not creating a significant amount of time for some luxury pampering, meditating, doing a bit of relaxing yoga or even taking a silent break away from work commitments.

In many ways, stopping what we are doing is associated with being unproductive - leading to us feeling guilty and unworthy of pleasure. Also, in relation to food, millions of us grow up with a feeling that we are not allowed to eat things that are pleasurable without beating ourselves up about it. All we have to do is look at some of the terminology many of use around food in our supermarkets, dieting products and even our own homes and workplaces

  • That food has x amount of sins

  • I’ve been naughty

  • How many points have you had today

  • Guilt free snacking

  • Clean eating

  • Cut of sugar

  • Fight the fat

We have been brainwashed into thinking that our every waking moment should revolve around controlling what we eat, avoiding pleasure and ploughing ourselves with guilt if we act otherwise.

This isn’t to say I’m condoning going out and eating several packets of biscuits or devouring a full cake (although if that’s what you feel like, i will not tell you off). What I am saying though, is that we need to reframe our mindset on what we feel needs to be linked with guilt.