Rule Breaking is a Smashing Adventure


How many of us have lived dictated by rules?

The rules of:

  • Not to venture too far away from home ...

  • Not to speak unless you are spoken to ...

  • Not to answer back or question the status quo ...

  • Not to eat over a certain amount of Calories ...

  • Not to consume a forbidden or ‘naughty’ food …

  • Not to trust our heart, stomachs and natural instincts ...

  • Not to have food outside of specific meal times ...

  • Not to travel to countries that are perceived as unsafe ...

  • Not to walk less than 10,000 steps per day

  • Not to do things last minute without any preparation far in advance ...

  • Not to trust anyone other than our family or very close friends …

  • Not to go out of the house without makeup

  • Not to wear clothes that stand out in a crowd

  • Not to get a job unless it pays a wealthy wage

  • Not to go out with someone who comes from a less privileged or less educated background ...

Rules may have governed your life for as long as your last diet, the last few months, for several years or, like probably most of us, for the rest of your life. Deep down, you may be fearing a negative consequence of breaking these rules, without actually knowing what the consequences actually are or where you learned to believe in them...

For myself, my life was literally over-ruled by rule based systems. Left, right and centre, I couldn’t move through the restriction of the rules I had created. I had created them in my own mind as a result of all the false messages my family and society had fed me - based on the very rule based systems they too had been falsely led to believe. I remember once, physically shaking from the shear thought of going out for a meal - feeling terrified that my life would be pretty much in pieces if there wasn’t anything ‘healthy’, ‘low calorie’ or ‘safe enough’ on the menu…

So many of my rules were based around control- control over food, body shape, exercise an